Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Under the Myth-el-toe


There are some beliefs you embrace in your life that just take all kinds of work before you un-believe them. I had particular problems with Santa Claus.

A lot of my early life was spent growing up in an apartment in Manhattan. We lived on the second floor. Every Christmas Eve, after supposedly going to bed, I would open my bedroom window (letting in the cold air in the dead of winter) twist my neck around, and look up in the sky to see if there were a sleigh, reindeer, etc. Yes, I did worry about the logistical difficulties of how Santa was going to noiselessly deliver the toys, especially when there were nine floors of apartments above.

I didn’t usually get what I wanted for Christmas – not because we were especially poor or I had mean parents – it’s just that I wanted impossible things most of the time.

There was not nearly as much trouble un-believing in the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy – the latter in particular. When I was in bed but still awake, a family member would walk into the bedroom and slip a quarter under the pillow. If an older brother did this, he sometimes didn’t take care to tiptoe or consider how gently to shove the pillow aside to deposit the quarter, but I feigned sleep anyway. (What’s the fairy ponying up these days, $5?)

But Santa Claus – that was a tough one. I was at a rather advanced age (I won’t admit to the number here) before the breaking news was given to me about his reality. I did not take it well. I think most precious but erroneous beliefs are like that. We have to go through a mourning period when they die, just as we do when a real person close to us passes.

Yes, reality does indeed bite! But it occurs to me that those discarded fantasies leave their traces behind, and they will always be a part of us, evolving as we age, often materializing in forms other than the ones we outlined. Some of our dreams will actually come true, when the time is right. I think when all is said and done, Santa figures out how to deliver the goods.

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