Tick Tick, Bong Bong

Most of us are probably familiar with the depiction of the New Year as a baby, often brought in by a stork. The idea is that once the clock strikes midnight on Jan. 1, something brand new arrives, along with infinite possibilities. A clean slate.

Really? Of course, we know that the dropping of the ball at Times Square, the chimes of midnight by Big Ben, and, in this case, the change in the final digit of the calendar year don’t really clean much on our slates. Most likely, the same set of circumstances we face at 11:59 p.m. will still largely be there at 12:01 a.m. – the bad along with the good.

To further complicate matters, we all don’t observe this change in digits at the same time. The champagne corks start popping in New Zealand, and the sound works its way around the world to Hawaii. Calendars and clocks are human inventions. It was only fairly recently that the world agreed on which calendar to follow among numerous choices. Clocks only became critical in the 19^th century, triggered by the rise of the railroad. And even now, time is subject to human decision-makers. Arizona doesn’t recognize Daylight Saving Time (nor do some of my older electronic devices, since Congress changed the opening and closing dates for DST).

They say our brains are wired to remember the bad things more vividly than the good, and as the New Year reminds us we’re not getting any younger, we consider some of the less-than-brilliant decisions we’ve made, occasionally at critical times. If we could only go back, we think, and undo that thing we did, or failed to do, life would be much better today. Would it? I don’t necessarily believe in “God’s plan,” but I do believe in chains of events. You can’t pull a link out of the chain and assume that all the links that followed would necessarily have been any better. Different, yes. But we are always forging new ones.

A young friend changed her life in 2013, selling her home in one state and moving to another where housing is cheaper, taxes are lower, and most important for her, the people seem more genuine. There was also a unique set of circumstances that allowed her to do it. That said, you can’t discount her courage in moving to a destination where she knew nobody. I often tell her that while there was wind beneath her wings, she’s the one who did the flying, often through storms.

But even she couldn’t change everything -- and how could she? The slate is never “clean.” At this moment in time, we are all the sum total of our experience. The changes we make ourselves, good or bad, are only possible because of previous events. We are all the product of our past, whether we like it or not.

Are the possibilities before us truly infinite? More so, it would seem, for some than for others. Infinite or not, we can all agree that possibilities are out there for all of us, and there’s something uplifting in that at seasons such as this.

But that’s always the case – not just at midnight on 1/1.